The Ultimate Guide to Tying the Knot in the Hamptons

By Casey Trudeau | May 26, 2016 | Style & Beauty Feature

Our guide to weddings from Quogue to Montauk.

East End Bliss

Let the Hamptons experts help you find the ultimate wedding venue.

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Newlyweds Chris and Sarah Wragge ride off into the sunset at their destination wedding venue, Brush Creek Ranch.

From classic elegance to relaxed seaside celebrations, the Hamptons set the ultimate backdrop for an idyllic wedding. Whether your dream ceremony is beneath a gorgeous tent from Stamford Tent & Event Services at Campbell Stables, on the waterfront at Harbor Club at Prime, or in the garden of Southampton Social Club, the Hamptons creates a setting that no one will forget. Just ask local newlyweds Chris Wragge and Sarah Siciliano—the couple had their first date at Topping Rose House in Bridgehampton and their first kiss at the beach on Ocean Road. Now expecting their first child this summer, Chris’s advice for a couple getting married in the Hamptons is to stay relaxed and enjoy. “There is no control over the weather,” he says. “As long as you are marrying the woman of your dreams and you got all the people who are most important to you to love and support the both of you, don’t sweat it and enjoy the day.” Thankfully, premier local vendors like Lilee Fell Flowers, Relish Caterers + Event Planning, Robbins Wolfe Eventeurs, and Gotham Events can help create the grandest day, down to the very last detail.

Botanical Oasis

Create your own enchanted hideaway at a magical East Hampton garden.

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FROM LEFT: Bride’s bouquet by Sag Harbor Florists; Teresa and Aaron Finch after saying their “I dos” at the intimate LongHouse Reserve; the newlyweds; a whimsical reception under a tent.

Hosting only one to two weddings a summer, the LongHouse Reserve is as exclusive as it is beautiful. Getting in early and planning far in advance are crucial for this East Hampton destination. Here, gorgeous gardens and elegant sculptures create a romantic maze with new sights at every turn. Couple Teresa Moore and Aaron Finch were fortunate to have their ceremony tucked away behind 15-foot hedges in a white gravel garden, giving their vows the feeling of intimacy they wanted. “The trick with really large venues is to determine the guest journey and leading them on it,” says Lexi Ritsch, Hamptons Aristocrat’s wedding planner and designer, who created this magical event for Teresa and Aaron to share with their loved ones. “Find a way to make it really personal!” Guests were greeted by a marching band and led to different areas of the property to appreciate every dreamy nook and corner. They ultimately ended at the top of Peters Pond, where a spacious tent from Sperry Tents was erected. The elegant reception featured gold fleur chairs and gold scalloped plates with bold arrangements by Sag Harbor Florist. The excitement continued with a duo of fire dancers, performing a native love dance, followed by a party late into the evening. 133 Hands Creek Road, East Hampton, 329-3568

Finishing Touches

... to make your big day that much more special.

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The Sweet Spot
The cake can carry your wedding theme to the next level. Ron Ben-Israel Cakes, 247 W. 38th St., 13th Fl., NYC, 212-625-3369

Classic Bonds
Select wedding bands that are specific to you (price on request). Glenn Bradford Fine Jewelry, 10B Jobs Lane, Southampton, 400-9800

Romantic Sole
Dance the night away in stylish flats. Aruna Seth (price on request). Kleinfeld Bridal, 110 W. 20th St., NYC, 646-633-4300

Wine Country Couture

World-renowned event planner Colin Cowie helps plan the ultimate vineyard wedding.

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FROM LEFT: Andrea and Daniel Vogel on their special day at Wölffer Estate Vineyard; Colin Cowie Celebrations created rustic chic in all aspects, including the escort card table; bridesmaids at the wedding; the bar surrounded a tree dripping with glass bubbles and candle-filled lanterns.

A Long Island winery can be one of the most enchanting settings for a wedding ceremony, and Sagaponack’s 55-acre Wölffer Estate Vineyard was the dream venue for Andrea and Daniel Vogel, who met in the Hamptons at a summer share house years prior to saying their “I dos.” The couple relied on renowned event planner Colin Cowie to make their wedding something special. “Wölffer’s natural beauty shaped many of our design decisions,” explains Cowie, who selected a private part of the vineyard to create a romantic utopia for the couple and their guests. After the ceremony, guests walked a candlelit pathway to the dinner reception. Here, the Colin Cowie Celebrations team brought the outdoors in, filling a Sperry tent with greenery and a beautiful tree dripping with glass bubbles and lanterns filled with candles. The surrounding area was decorated with French-country inspired furniture and an abundance of white florals. “It was 360 degrees of fabulous views,” raves Cowie, who has years of experience planning some of the most truly unique weddings. “No two weddings are the same,” he says. “I take the couple on a journey appealing to all the senses. The key is to create a magical experience with a carefully thought-out beginning, middle, and end. It’s nice to have guests experience at least two different areas of the property.” Colin Cowie Celebrations, 256 W. 36th St., Fourth Fl., NYC, 212-396-9007. Wölffer Estate Vineyard, 139 Sagg Road, Sagaponack, 537-5106

Weekend Affair

Host a ceremony at a local landmark and turn your special day into a weekend-long memorable event.

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FROM LEFT: Reception dinner out in the garden; cocktails; a sweet candid shot of Malcolm Carfrae and John Wattiker in front of c/o The Maidstone; flowers from Sag Harbor Florist capture the beauty of the Hamptons.

Sometimes one day just isn’t enough and you need a venue that can accommodate a full weekend of festivities. For Malcolm Carfrae and John Wattiker, c/o The Maidstone in East Hampton was the perfect solution. The couple were able to rent out all of the boutique hotel’s 19 rooms for the weekend and therefore share some of their favorite Hamptons activities with friends and family. “Destination weddings, like at c/o The Maidstone, become an inexpensive way to share your day,” explains Hamptons event planner Larry Scott of Lawrence Scott Events. “Instead of the big city wedding, where you feel you have to invite everyone, this gives you a way to really make [your wedding] more intimate.” For their big day, Carfrae and Wattiker were able to utilize different spaces within the Maidstone for each part of the wedding and reception—cocktails were held on the front lawn and dinner in the back garden, and then dancing at the inn’s bar with DJ Mike Nouveau gave the feeling of being at many different venues while offering the convenience of never having to leave the property. For these two Hampton loyalists, it was important that they collaborated with people in the community, including Anastasia Casale at Sag Harbor Florist, to capture the unique beauty of the Hamptons and to create their special day.

Opulent Treasures

These truly unique wedding gifts capture the spirit and aesthetic of the East End.

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Fun & Games
Tic-tac-toe set, L’Objet ($680). L’Objet à la Plage, 9 Main St., Southampton, 259- 2644

A Little Sparkle
18k white-gold custom enameled emerald cuff links, David Alan Jewelry (price on request). 2 W. 45th St., NYC, 212-382-1410

Fan the Flame
Solid brass match striker, AERIN ($200). Love Adorned, 156 Main St., 267-7720

Platinum Bonds

Fall in love with breathtaking bijoux.

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From top: Platinum trinity solitaire ring, Cartier (price on request). London Jewelers, Americana Manhasset, 2060 Northern Blvd., 516-627-7475. Platinum double Capri ring, David Yurman (price on request). Americana Manhasset, 516-627-1700. Platinum 8.56-carat center diamond ring, Tiffany & Co. (price on request). Americana Manhasset, 516-869-0800. Platinum 2.10-carat round-cut diamond ring, Van Cleef & Arpels (price on request). London Jewelers, Americana Manhasset, SEE ABOVE.

Intimate Affair

Hosting an event at a Hamptons residence offers limitless opportunities for creating tHe ultimate setting.

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For Lauren Barton and Trevor Kaufman’s wedding, held at a private home, eventeur Bronson van Wyck crafted a whimsical and romantic setting, using the stunning landscape as inspiration.

After a whirlwind year of meeting, falling in love, and being whisked away to Paris, where Trevor Kaufman proposed to Lauren Barton, the Amagansett couple toured a dozen locations in the East End for hosting their perfect wedding. After seeing all that the Hamptons had to offer, the couple decided a private home would be the best place to hold their ceremony. “There is a feeling you get at home that is difficult to re-create anywhere else,” says eventeur Bronson van Wyck. “There is more warmth, more character. A guest truly experiences the hospitality of the hosts.” Using the home’s exquisite landscape as the inspiration, van Wyck crafted a romantic and whimsical setting. Says Lauren, “The ceremony was like stepping into the looking glass.” Hundreds of lanterns with candles were suspended from 50-year-old cherry trees. Hedges perfectly arched to cocoon the couple and their guests for the vows. After the ceremony, guests stepped through the hedges to cocktails under a silk tent that offered views of the glittering trees and starlit sky. When planning a wedding, couples must balance where to splurge versus where to save. “I love playing with high and low,” says van Wyck. “It can have an even greater impact than if you go all-out on everything. Mix rustic elements with something refined, and incorporate romantic elements with something sophisticated. Allow your space to determine where you can save. The growth and weathering of these hedges lent all the beauty we needed.” Van Wyck & Van Wyck, 224 W. 30th St., 13th Fl., NYC, 212- 675-8601

Beachy Nuptials

Say “I do” on the Sandy beaches of Montauk—but always plan for the area’s unpredictable weather.

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“When planning a beach wedding, the first thing is to have a backup venue in case it rains,” says local event planner Jill Gordon. “Choose a call time and allow your vendors and guests time to reroute to the new location.” Oceanbleu at Westhampton Bath and Tennis Hotel and Marina and Bridgehampton Tennis & Surf Club are popular South Fork destinations for a beach wedding. At Gurney’s Montauk Resort & Seawater Spa, the oceanfront resort has direct access to 1,000 feet of private beach, which allows for an intimate ceremony with the Atlantic shoreline as your backdrop, but it also offers several options in case of rain, such as the Regent Cocktail Club or the Great Hall. If the sky cooperates and your dream beach wedding is a go, “keep in mind the summer weather,” Gordon says. “Offer a refreshing drink while guests are waiting for the ceremony to begin. Lessing’s Sparking Celebration [from Sparkling Pointe Vineyard in Southold] will quench their thirst and help beat the heat.” To ensure your beach wedding goes off without a wave, Save The Date founder Jennifer Pate Gilbert advises, “The most important issue is securing a date and a specific beach; every town has different rules. Permit can take months to secure, so it’s important to get this information as far ahead of time as possible.” Once the permits are in place and the big day arrives, Gilbert and crew have a devised a fun check-in so guests stay stable and comfortable on the shifting sands. “Most shoes don’t work on sand, so we have done a ‘shoe check’”: Check guest shoes and hand out flip-flops for walking or dancing on the beach.

Beachy Refresher

Refreshing summery cocktails to sate your guests before the ceremony.

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Art of Eating
Art of Eating’s sagaponack punch, made with vodka, alizé, passion fruit, and raspberry, is light and perfect to serve on the beach.

Lombardi
Lombardi’s pink citrus lavender lemonade can be a great mocktail option. or add champagne for a bubbly taste.

Peter Callahan
Peter Callahan suggests watermelon margaritas to help shake off the summer heat.

Fairy-tale Day

Skip traveling abroad for a fairy-tale wedding; Oheka Castle on Long Island's Gold Coast offers a grand setting for a fantasy ceremony.

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Alexis Tashima and Shane Rothermel exchanged vows at Oheka Castle, which offers the refinement of a French château on Long Island’s Gold Coast, along with spectacular gardens, ballrooms, and 32 on-site suites for guests and family.

A grand Gold Coast mansion, Oheka Castle sits prominently on Long Island’s highest point. With all the refinement of a French château, the property hosts only one wedding at a time, giving a couple and their guests unparalleled access to ballrooms, gardens, and 32 on-site suites. Says eventeur-to-the stars Marcy Blum, “The thing that makes Gold Coast great are the amazing hotels and gorgeous venues for guests to build a community that creates a vivacious familial event allowing more opportunities to make it a destination wedding. Not to mention… less traffic.” Shane Rothermel and Alexis Tashima worked with Massapequa-based event coordinator Karyn LoCicero of Karyn Michael Events to plan the ceremony, which included the couple exchanging vows in the gardens, then wowing their guests in the grand ballroom with their first dance. With a grand, European-inspired wedding, it’s tradition for brides to have a sheer veil for the ceremony. However, once the couple say their “I do’s,” most brides, like Alexis, discard the wispy white tulle for a more relaxed look during the reception. Says Bianka Lefferts, owner of 27 Hampton Salon, “Make sure that if you do not have a stylist with you during removal, have your stylist show someone in your party how to properly pull it out. One wrong move could disrupt your whole hairstyle.” For a truly memorable grand finale, the newlyweds can head off to their honeymoon in a luxury vehicle, such as a vintage 1956 Bentley or a 1937 Packard Super 8 limousine, from M & V Limousines. Très chic indeed!

Artful Vows

Find your inner Picasso as you create an effortlessly chic wedding to share with loved ones.

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CLOCKWISE FROM LEFT: The bride and her bridesmaid Danielle Snyder under the sculptures; Hilary Rhoda and Sean Avery say their vows; the couple enjoying their reception; Hilary outside the Parrish.

The Parrish Art Museum opened its Water Mill location in 2012, and since then, the Herzog & de Meuron-designed locale has quickly become a favorite for couples looking for a chic wedding venue. “The Parrish itself is so stunning,” says model Hilary Rhoda, who married retired hockey player Sean Avery at the Parrish last fall. “We used a local nursery for all our flowers and plants,” adds Rhoda. “We wanted to keep everything organic and seasonal.” Flowers are a fun way to add color to your hairstyle, says Jamie Mazzei at nuBest salon and spa. “Whether it’s a bold amaryllis bloom accenting a sideswept style or classic roses tucked into a low chignon, flowers are certainly not limited to centerpieces and the bridal party’s bouquets.” Adding pops of color can help make a wedding personal—Rhoda had a custom Carolina Herrera gown with a sophisticated take on “something blue,” with teal panels accenting the deep V neck. Another great way to incorporate color is with the wedding party. Michelle Farmer Collaborate has dresses of every hue to make sure bridesmaids feel gorgeous. Also part of Rhoda and Avery’s day was a buffet-style dinner that allowed for more guest interaction. Another way for guests to mingle is creating food stations around the reception area. Simon Sheridan of Exquisite Food says, “Stations may be used successfully during cocktail hour. A raw bar or an Italian antipasto station can add a nice touch.” Sofia Crokos believes “there should be some formality involved in all weddings. Do what makes you comfortable, but for memories, I do love the couple to have their first dance and cake cutting. The cake cutting symbolizes their start to a sweet life together.”

Artistic Extras

Elegant accessories pull together a bride’s complete wedding-day look.

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Framed
Keep your must-haves for the day in a framed clutch. Jeffery Levinson ($1,425). Michelle Farmer Collaborate, 2491 Montauk Hwy., Bridgehampton, 604-1850

Whimsical Ear
18k white-gold and diamond drop earrings, London Collection, ($25,900). London Jewelers, Americana Manhasset, 516-627-7475; 2 Main St., East Hampton, 329-3939

Arranged Beauty
A bride’s ultimate accessory is her bouquet. B Floral, 153 W. 27th St., NYC, 646-216-3169

PhotograPhey by aaron Delesie; golden hour StudioS (wedding); © 2016 ron ben-iSrael CakeS (Cake); COLIN MILLER/COLIN COWIE CELEBRATIONS (INTERIORS); SUE KESSLER/CHRISTIAN OTH STUDIO (COUPLE; WEDDING PARTY); Neil rasmus/bFa.com (tables; couPle); aria isadora/bFa.com (driNks); elio tolot (l’objet); Jeff Crawford. Styling by CaSey trudeau. prop Styling by Sergio eSteveS; LIPPke and Joanna toto for Ira LIPPke StudIoS (barton wedding); Joshua Zuckerman (couPle; boutonnière); FiliP Wolak (beach; tent); MilliMeter PhotograPhy (oheka); WEDDING IMAGES PROVIDED BY HILARY RHODA AND SEAN AVERY. PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN & JUSTIN PICCIOTTI/DYAD PHOTOGRAPHY LLC (BOUQUET)

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